Infidelity in today’s lifestyle.
Nowadays, television, movies or even songs talks about infidelity that would always capture the attention of almost all people. A question was formulated in my thoughts, why does it capture our hearts and minds? Is it because most of us understands what those characters feel? Or it is already the common situation that marriage life experience?
What is Infidelity?
I would like to start with how infidelity is defined. According to the dictionary, it is the subjective feeling that one’s partner has violated a set of rules or relationship norms and this violation results in feelings of sexual jealousy and rivalry, it is also referred to as cheating, adultery, or having an affair. There are three primary types of reasons why people cheats that results to Infidelity:
- Individual reasons. When one of the partner violated the implied rules of relationship by engaging with a different affair for no other reason but personal satisfaction.
- Relationship reasons. Happens normally when marriage or relationship is not in good shape and one or both partners resulted to find their own comfort zone and forget about their vows.
- Situational reasons. This is the most common reasons or alibis used by the unfaithful party. They were supposedly caught in a situation where they can’t say NO.
Infidelity is a choice and will always be a choice. No matter what types of reasons we have, it will always boils down to the decisions we make. These decisions would affect not only the people involved, but most specially the people around them. If one is always faithful to their relationship he always find ways to solve whatever problem they have, by making the right choice and not by making a choice that would make the situation more complicated.
In the event that you were cheated on, it will be the time for you to move forward and think of a brighter future. Life doesn’t end there. You have to take one step at a time until you are ready to love and be loved, until the wounds are healed and especially until you are ready to trust again. Talking and listening would be the best jumpstart in that way you would be able to renegotiate and give things their second chances if the situation permits.