How Bullying affects one’s Perspective!
Bullying doesn’t always come as what we expect them to be. Most of the time, we think that it is just merely for fun for both sides the bully and the victim. However, looking into the victims perspectives, it may appear as everything is perfect and everything is good but what we don’t know if that we see is the truth.
All victims of bullying will always try their best to show that they can stand the pain, embarrassment and the attack towards them, whether it is physical or verbal, to show the bully that it doesn’t have effect on them. Though others will see it as a “Joke” and not as bullying but it will have unconscious effect towards the victim’s behavior and self-esteem. This is true not only to school children but also at work and somewhere else. Victims will suffer one all of the following effects:
- Depression. Due to unwelcoming words or attacks that the victim receives, this develops low esteem that causes depression.
- Trust Issues: The victim will lose trust and confidence of oneself due to fact that he or she’s being turned down and neglected from the norms.
- Quietness and Anxiety. As an effect of bullying, one will tend to stay away from the group as a sign of retreat but still anxious due to the nature of the environment and the people behind it.
- Decrease in Academic Performance: Due to repetitive attack that the victim received, it causes too much depression and trust for themselves. This will eventually takes away focus and determination because of self pity and feeling of self-worthlessness. This will have direct impact to his performance in his field.
Eventually, the victim will feel that he or she has no better place in the group and environment and will results to retreating from the real world, creating their own world that will somehow satisfy the needs that the real world can’t satisfy (Schizophrenia ) or even results to SUICIDE while the bully is not aware of what they have done or completely blind of the sad truth of what they did.
Awareness is the key that will somehow educate victim on what they need to do and most especially to the bullies who are not aware of the effects of that they thought was just for “FUN”. Most bullying all started for fun among groups that will turn out into something that will create unwanted feelings among victims.