Essence of Trust in a Relationship.
There are a lot of things that should be present in a relationship. But if you would rank all of them which do you think would take the top spot? Personally my top spot is TRUST. People may say that if you love someone it’s already given that you trust them, for me it’s the other way around. Why? Simply because falling in love is much easier than completely trusting the person.
TRUST is something that you really have to work on before it’s given to you. Something to work hard for. Something to prove that you are worthy of. That is why when people ask me if I would be willing to give second chances if my partner cheats the answer would always be NO. They say I’m too harsh but personally I’m not. I just know my stand and I know that things would just be more complicated if I would give a second chance. Imagining myself listening to my partner without believing a word from him simply SUCKS. It would always be difficult to believe especially if the person had fooled you once. As they always say it is easy to forgive but hard to forget.
So what is the point of giving a chance? Is it because you wanted to save whatever you had? Or just because you LOVE the person? If your answer to the third question is YES, then let me ask you, do he feel the same way? Because if he does he wouldn’t do anything that would hurt you. He would not give you too much pain that you would be having difficulty in bearing it. He would cherish the TRUST you had given. He would nurture the relationship that you have.
Choices and Decissions.
Everything in our life is a choice. Each day, we need to make decisions, whether to be happy or sad, to continue or not, to cheat or not to cheat but the most important thing is that, whatever you choose, you should know how to stand by it. And if the consequence of your actions results to losing the person who had given you TRUST then be it because you may be able to pick up the broken pieces of that persons trust but you can never bring it back to how it was before.
“IF YOU’VE EARNED A PERSON ‘S TRUST, CHERISH IT BECAUSE YOU WOULD NOT HAVE IT, IF THE PERSON DID NOT SEE THAT YOU ARE WORTHY FOR IT.”
-originally written by the woman I trust, “Badz”